Wedding Etiquette Can Be Awesome

photo by elizabeth kaye
photo by elizabeth kaye

Does one of your wedding worries include the fact that you might do something totally rude along the way (even if by accident)? Besides being the center of attention, one thing that can be scary about getting married is all the pomp and circumstance. The very fundamentals of the event — invites, reply cards, receiving lines, toasts, first dances, cake cutting, gifts, the list goes on and on — have so many rules around them. It can be intimidating! But wedding etiquette should actually help you feel less worried about your big day, not more so.

That’s why we’re loving the on point advice for handling sticky situations from Lizzie Post and Daniel Post Senning — great-great-grandchildren of the original etiquette expert Emily Post — on their weekly podcast, Awesome Etiquette. They talk about how to behave everywhere from weddings to work and even take questions by email at

Wondering how to handle single guests asking for plus-ones at your event, even though you’re sure that only spouses are in your budget? Throwing some unique traditions (breakfast burritos, anyone?) into your big day and getting grief from the fam? These two cover all this and more. Think etiquette is stuffy? Not to worry. These two are young, and their tips are modern, taking into account current technology and our changing world. They’re also honest and tell it like it is (or should be). Why not give it a listen and feel your wedding day know-how rise?

> If you’re not into podcasts, or just have a specific question and can’t wait, check out the 6th Edition of their Wedding Etiquette book.


[Wedding Favors] Tea, a new classic

“Downton Abbey” may be done for this year, but that doesn’t mean anyone has stopped drinking tea (or forsaken it for Gin & Tonic with the debut of the final 7 episodes of”Mad Men”). Quite the contrary.


Tea is an on-trend beverage, especially black tea, which has been shown in recent studies to be super good for you (or, at the very least, way better for you than a cocktail). Save the hair of the dog for the hotel minibar and give your guests a truly salubrious (ahem, healthy) morning-after option at your big event with one of these exclusive wedding favor tea blends from Stephen Smith Teamaker.

Stephen was the guy who brought Starbucks Tazo, and his redux company is now run by his wife and puts out exquisite teas of all types from its home base in Portland, Oregon. I like the string-tie boxes, which have a “handsome” handmade look and custom labels with your wedding date, names, and event location. Fill with 15 sachets of the classic black tie blend, sure to be strong enough to bring even your dance floor–hogging ex into consciousness in time for your post-wedding brunch. Oh wait, scratch that. Hopefully these custom wedding favors will go so fast there’s no way any will be left by the time he decides to stumble to his room.

[Wedding Invitations] Etiquette


After your engagement photos are ready to go, it’s time to start thinking about what you want to do with save the dates! I teamed up with Clane Gessel Photography to answer a few questions [below] regarding tips and ideas to help you start brainstorming ideas for wedding stationery design.STD_TiffJoey

Q: What timeline do you recommend for sending out save the dates and invitations?

A: Save-the-dates can go out six to eight MONTHS before the wedding … invitations can then go out anywhere from six to eight WEEKS beforehand!

Q: How can wedding stationery bring the bride and groom’s personality to life?
A: Couples should sit down and discuss what they both love together. One idea is maybe doing theme-based stationery on how they met. The best thing to do is to research and get ideas by browsing wedding-related searches! For example, if classic is more your style, type in ‘vintage film cinema wedding’ or for more alternative weddings, get creative ideas by typing in, ‘concert themed wedding’. Pinterest is another great resource I swear by.

Q: What trends are you seeing in wedding stationery right now that you recommend?
A: I, of course, love any trend that involves a unique & custom design, but gold, rose and peach colors are hot right now!  I’m doing more RSVP postcards than ever before [saves money on the postage stamp plus weight of final invitation package.] Which actually lead me to design an all-in-one tear-off/perforated rsvp postcard with details/map card attached, for guests to keep once they send the rsvp back.

Q: What should a bride consider when trying to choose between modern or traditional wording for invites?
A: Wording is an important part [along with the paper & colors chosen of course] to set the tone of the wedding, but more importantly to let the guests know who is hosting and how formal it will be. I often tell my clients to check out the wording options at

Q: What is the most creative thing you have designed?
A:  The vintage film tickets I design are very popular along with my concert-and sporting-themed tickets. (Thank you to clients who originally requested these custom designs!) My San Francisco skyline illustration was created the same way, along with a few other city skylines after couples decided they want a modern ‘city themed’ stationery suite.

[real wedding] Lauren & Jace Paris Inspired Invitations


Congrats to Lauren & Jace, married July 6, 2012 in Los Angeles at Hotel Casa Del Mar!

It seems like yesterday when we started the custom design process on their wedding invitation suite. We first created a ‘Paris skyline’ illustration [where he proposed!] on their personalized monogram & all-in-one guest/return address label wraps. Combined with stylish typography and swirl graphics we incorporated a color palette with hues of blush & taupe [enclosure cards printed on a pale pink/coral metallic paper]. I just love how the whole wedding day follows this romantic color theme so perfectly!



> check out the full post for more wedding planning inspiration via Style Unveiled
/ photography: Next Exit Photography  /  wedding coordinator:  Sassy Girl Weddings and Events /

[wedding planning] groomsmen mix & match

I’m loving this trend for the gentlemen’s wedding day attire, I really hope more & more couples continue to do this! 😉 Check out ideas & info on groomsmen mixing & matching to coordinate with the color theme …& the ladies! [via onewed]

[real san francisco wedding] naomi & kevin

2012.10.20 Naomi Evarts & Kevin Hurley Wedding Contract

Thanks to photographer Gustavo Fernández [along with naomi], I’m able to share these wonderful wedding day photos & planning inspiration! I loved customizing my san francisco skyline invitation to complement their venue location (we replaced the bay bridge with the golden gate bridge). They also personalized the metallic paper colors to match their color theme.

wedding details

bridal shoes


san francisco trolley

San Francisco Skyline Wedding Invitation

OH MY GOSH!  I’m Super excited about the monogram on the cupcakes!! 😉

2012.10.20 Naomi Evarts & Kevin Hurley Wedding Contract

We used Kara’s cupcakes (I’ve always been a huge fan of their cupcakes, so it worked perfectly to have them for our wedding). They will do the custom monogram for $1 per cupcake, and they have those cute six-inch cakes so you can still “cut the cake” but serve your guests cupcakes too. (At one point, our youngest flower girl was storing cupcakes in her flower girl basket) 🙂 ~naomi

Wedding reception cake table

Wedding Reception Escort Cards

wedding details

I assisted in designing & printing the wedding programs, but Naomi made her own CD wedding favors & escort cards to match!

Everything came together beautifully… and what a gorgeous venue [the Clubhouse at the Presidio Golf Course, San Francisco] and of course, a gorgeous couple! Congrats!

san francisco presidio

trolley: Events West  |  bridal hanger: Etsy shop Two Broads Design

cake topper: Etsy shop Milan Creations  |  florist: Carol from an Added Touch Flowers

[wedding planning] cloud parade

…the first online marketplace where you can shop
and design your own radical wedding!


I’m loving the description for this new planning site [via mashable]:

Think Etsy married Pinterest
and made a Cloud Parade baby.




Get inspired by color, category or style… then design, plan & purchase all within your own unique clouds [which you can share with others too]. Check it out and start planning! 😉

[save the date] wedding film trailer

How great is this video save the date… created by the bride herself!

Luckily they found my vintage cinema wedding invitation tickets [via etsy], which we personalized just for them to complement their film theme.

Vintage Wedding Ann

vintage film wedding ticket

papers shown: metallic beige & coral

[tech style] wedding party app…for the guest photos

Wedding Party

So, yes… the professional photographer should always be the main artist focused on the couples’ very important photos… BUT… what a great idea this app is for the guests! They can capture all those random moments the bride & groom miss during the cocktail, dinner & reception hours. Love it… check out all the benefits too! Have you used it yet??



> also, a great article via 7×7 on the original concept & creator!